Virginity

Dear Misty Eyez~ I am I 19 year old guy who hasn't lost his virginity yet! Do you recommend that I wait till I find someone special, or "lose it" to a close friend? I am experiencing sexual stress, masturbation alone does not help relieve my problem. What do you believe is the best situation to help me? I feel as though I am the last virgin, am I weird? I don't wanted to make the wrong decision but I need to figure out something!

Signed ~Adam (not Eve)

Dear Adam~I understand your frustration, but I personally feel that you have a very special gift and you should hold on to it as long as possible. As you may know, I was raised in the church and they believe you should not have sex until you are married. I am not saying you should hold on to it that long (especially being I don't know if you will be able to be married??) To be honest it is a rare coin that I can see both sides so clearly. I do not think there is anything wrong with experimenting with many of the fish in the sea before you settle down. But I do think that you should wait for someone VERY special. You will always remember your first time & it should be something beautiful, something to cherish and something worth remembering. Yes, the promiscuous nature of certain parts of the Gay lifestyle (clubs, bathhouses) can be quite INTOXICATING, however it is also full of heartache and pain, not to mention disease. There is also a large number of Gays involved in long term monogamous relationships! However I feel you are in a special situation and I urge you to be careful, protect yourself and wait for someone you love.... (and then be a whore - LOL) XOXO Misty Eyez!