NERVOUS TWITTER

Dear Misty, I have been chatting (ie. phone, texting, through a website, and email) with this guy on and off for about 2 years now and I met online who lives approximately 4 hours away. For the past few months we have been chatting everyday and sharing our attraction to each other. I have continued to casually date other men, but find myself more and more attracted to my online friend rather then the men I meet in person, locally. I asked if he would like to come down and visit me of which he excitely replied yes so we are planning a time for him to come down and stay with me. I have some trepidation about meeting in person and he verablized some nervousness as well which I only assume is natural. I really like him and I am very interested in things working out. How should I interact with him and what should I do for fun once he gets here? ~ Nervously twitterpated! Dear the Nervous Twitter, Nervousness is GOOD! It shows that you have realistic expectations, hope for the best but are afraid for the worst. YES, Online is the way of the future and I personally know several very happy couples that have met online. But the reality is that you have no idea if you will be compatible or even attracted to each other physically. Remember that when we chat online we can be anyone we want, not to mention we can hide our flaws and imperfections. That being said your relationship is currently based on a fantasy... Full of what if's... and could this really be the one. That in and of itself can be quite intoxicating. In the back of your mind remember there may be a very good reason he is single. In the meantime I think its good thing that you're keeping your other options open until this man indeed becomes a reality. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. I definitely think you should meet, you'll never know what could happen until you take a chance. However, just make it is just that... A VISIT. The world is full of freeloaders, and romantic men are their biggest targets. So it might be best if you visit him first or make sure that this guy is not moving when he comes to see you. While he is here have realistic expectations, and Im sure everything will be GREAT. As for fun... do things that are are just that fun, and out of the house. This way you can learn more about him and his likes without turning his visit into a sex fest. If you want this relationship to stand the test of time make sure its not based on sex, and that you are indeed compatible in real life. Especially if this long distance relationship has intentions of becoming something more local. Wishing you the BEST ~ Misty Eyez