Golden Showers

Dear Misty,

I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. We are serious, without jenksing it, I would say that I have found my life partner. We were at a social party this past weekend and over martini's my boyfriend told the group he wanted me to pee on him. I was in shock, and it must have shown on my face, for he then sighed and said "Im just Kidding Honey." and then began to laugh it off. We have never done anything kinky like that before, nor have we talked about it. and he did it publicly? What should I do? Do you Think He was serious?

Help! Am I a Future Golden Boy? Im not sure if I want to do this.

Dear Goldie frocks.....

Yes, I do think that you will be taking on a new activity in your private life. Remember back when we were young and closeted, and struggling with coming out. Especially when we were not sure if we wanted to come out to our friends or not... often times this is how people handle uncomfortable social situations... They test the waters by joking around. So that if its an unfavorable response they can retract it by saying "I was just joking" Unless their friends are like "I always knew you were gay I'm glad you can tell me now" etc...

Now you mentioned this may be your life partner. If that is true, and if he is indeed the one, then you will obviously want to keep this man. I believe in my heart that every relationship is give and take, and for the success of your relationship you must compromise. From here I can also say "Variety is the Spice of Life," however in reality I will say this...I personally am open minded enough to try anything once, especially in a loving and trusting relationship. So if my life partner really wanted to try something out of the ordinary I would most definetly do it. In fact I would do anything to please my man. As in every relationship, communication is very important. Talk afterwards, talk about what you did like and what you didn't like. What would have to change if you did it again. Who knows you may really get into it, but if you didn't like it, hopefully he only needed to do it just that once. But remember if you if you refuse and he is really craving this or anything else your not willing to do. Well, lets just say men have been known to wander for less.

So... I would say go get a porn with a golden shower scene or two, and watch it, and learn from it. Educate yourself on the safety of it and go experiment safely and responsibly.