Misty, I am a 21 yr old ts and a server at a popular Italian resturant. and Like 3 Months ago I let my managment know that I planned on Living Full time as a woman @ the 1st of the year. Now they are trating me differently, I dont know how to bring it up

Life is FULL of unexpected turns and hurdles that we must over come in life, and its difficult enough to be "NORMAL" but then to deal with your sexuality, and then who and what you are its a battle that will require you to be more tough than you ever thought you were capable of being. I think most people would think that I am going to tell you to "RAGE AGAINST THE MACHINE" and/or to take Corporate American DOWN, or Die Trying... BUT I AM NOT. The reality is your job is your bread and butter and you need to be able to eat and afford nice things like plastic surgeries and hormones etc. This path you are about to take is a VERY SCARY ONE and the last thing you need is all of your co workers looking at you in SHOCK or even FEAR. I have waited tables since I was 18, and have worked for such corporations as Chili's, Macaroni Grill and most People remember I worked at the Cheesecake Aventura from 2001-2006. So this is what I would suggest for you to do. In your private life, keep taking your pills, shots etc to undergo your transition. Start getting your Laser Hair removal sessions etc. Start getting your Silicone injections, Hips/ Lips etc.... BUT while you are at work, I wouldn't suggest all of a sudden coming to work in drag and forcing the TGIRL down their throat. Instead I would suggest the opposite, fade into the background. Slick your growing hair back into a neat, tight ponytail, and come to work with no makeup. Start to wear looser shirts so that your growing boobs will not be to obvious, and I think you will be surprised at how long you are able to sneak by under the radar, and unnoticed. Yes people will start to notice your skin looks more smooth and you will begin to look younger but they wont know whats going on, and I wouldn't tell them, blame it on vitamins. The main reason I am suggesting this is primarily for your safety, when people dont understand they often react in fear. But most importantly as a tipped employee, I would be more concerned with pulling the wool over your customer's eyez so that you can maximize your tips. And then once you leave work you can sit in your car, put on your earrings, eyeliner, makeup etc... and drive home as a "Girl." Over time as your skin gets softer and your voice gets higher, there will be a point (probably right before you get your implants) that you have crossed the line of no return where you are starting to look like a Girl even without makeup on and in reality that is ideally what you want anyway. Once this happens if your job is giving you shit, I would then find another job as a "girl" and quit this one, get your breasts before you start the new job and once you start the new one... nobody will think of you as a man or as a trans for you will already be a "GIRL" in their eyez and it will make it much easier for you. That way you don't have to train your co-workers, can you imagine you as a girl and the hostess who has known you for years telling your table that "HE" will be right with them, and then once your tea is spilt, unless its a gay restaurant there goes half your tips. I hope I could Help xoxo Misty
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