OK so about the situation, i infected my 38yr old partner with HIV and so he feels destroyed. He feels like i roobed him, and i told him that i wanted to take care of him , but i don't know how to deal with the stress of the relationship.

I just answered a simular question, not sure if they are both from you.. but here is my answer and video :)

ICKY... This has definitely got to suck for the both of you. Im sure right now he blames you.. but in reality it takes two to tango.. and if the two of you were playing with RISKY BEHAVIOR then the two of you are to blame.... BUT unless he has been looking for an excuse to break up with you I do not think this will be the straw that breaks the camels back for somewhere in his mind he has known for the last 10 years that you were positive and there is always a chance that he could get infected and yet he still chose to be with you.

Try not to beat yourself up and try to be supportive of him in his time of need as well :)
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