im in a serious relationship but im constantly having drama with my bfs past, its both new things that i find out about and just getting over things i already know. is this normal and worth trying to work through or too much to deal with?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNOXe7qaWtQ

The Above is my VLOG Respose, BUT I also wanted to address your Situation in writing, after I taped the video. I truly do understand your frustration.... I really took my time in my VLOG but I want to re iterate that If your relationship is indeed serious - I TRULY HOPE that you found "THE DRAMA" out from his mouth, especially if its MAJOR DRAMA. Is he in denial? Does your boyfriend try to hide from his past? does he shutter and clam up every-time you bring up the fact that he used to needlepoint? OR? if the topic comes up... does he share his experiences with you and others? So that just in case others have needlepoint in their past, they can see that its NOT Such a bad thing, and you can over come from it ? (TRUST ME YOU WANT THE LATTER - if its DEEPLY SUPPRESSED that means he hasn't delt with or healed from his experience)

Also be mature enough to realize that people change. Just because he used to be a klepto in the 4th grade doesn't mean he steals now.

if you TRULY LOVE this man - You will be able to overlook any blemish in his past. But if it is INDEED IN THE PAST...NOTHING is that bad.... I was being silly in the video about snorting the glue, but If he used to snort Glue, and he says he stopped but you keep catching him in the act , or you keep finding glue around his nose. Then it is NOT in his past. And that is a different situation.

But even then if you are running for PRES and skeletons come up to haunt you. If you LOVE HIM, and he is HONEST WITH YOU then together the two of you can work it out, and deal with it, and possibly grow even closer through this ordeal.

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